Another thing about weddings is that they can be tough; you learn a lot about the people around you who you consider friends. Let's start with my former "best friend." She was very close to me while I lived in Florida. Before I had moved to Florida, we had only met a couple times. Her and I stayed in touch when I moved and she made a few trips down. I thought "Dang! This girl really cares about me to take the time off work to visit!" So when Gary proposed, I was so excited to ask her to be my Maid of Honor. I was so excited to do wedding planning with her when I moved home! Well, when I got back to Minnesota, she didn't have time for me. She had a busy schedule; understandable, but it seemed like she was mostly busy with everybody else but me. When we arranged for her to come see me in the dress I had picked out, she met me at the bridal shop. I was already in my dress standing under the bright "stage" lights, so excited to see her face when she walked in. Well... she walked in and all she said was, "It took me 45 minutes to get here." We were at the bridal shop for a good hour, and never once did she comment on my dress... I felt like I should have been in sweats; then her reaction would have been appropriate.
After the bridal shop, we headed to dinner with my family. I was already raging internally at this point. Well, over dinner my mom started talking to her about her plans to move out of state... she responded to something my mom asked with, "Well, I have to come home for Kenzie's crap.." TO MY OWN MOTHER. Obviously, that was the final straw. I quickly cut her out of my wedding and my life completely. While it hurt to experience that in what was supposed to be a very happy day, I got the best thing ever out of it... the best Maid of Honor on earth, Mishele! Mishele should have been my first choice all along, but I hadn't remembered how close we were while we were living in separate states (believe me, no matter how much you say you're going to keep in touch with someone, it's not as easy as one may think!). Once I moved home we got right back into the groove of our friendship. Now I couldn't be happier to know she'll be by my side on our wedding day!
Next story... well... someone deleted me from her facebook once she found out she wasn't invited to the wedding. This is someone I have seen once since moving home, and talked to maybe a total of 10 times (via facebook only!). I had to laugh at the immaturity. When I got engaged, I had been warned that you'd find out a lot about your "friends" during the engagement... so true!
I never thought things would change when we got engaged, but they absolutely did. Not necessarily to our relationship or to us, but the people around us. It has been quite the journey, and while I am SO excited for the day to finally be here, I am also excited for it to be over and for Gary and I to be husband and wife without all of our time and money going into a single day's event (although it will be the event of my life!).
That's all I've got... useless rambling.
Happy Thursday :)
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